4 Things Your Divorced Friends Can Teach About Marriage

Those who have gone through divorce know first-hand that, if you want competent legal or financial advice, you should contact a capable Michigan divorce attorney. If it's marital advice you want, however, consider asking someone who has been divorced. Of course, you don’t want to pick their brains when they’re going through a messy legal battle. You also won’t want to ask advice if they’re still bitter over their previous relationship issues. But after a fair amount of time, divorced individuals do calm down, the heart recovers, and the lessons learned are worth their weight in gold. In fact, if you have access to a friend, family member, or colleague who can give you free advice, grab it. It may save your own relationship or marriage in the long run. Here are some of the surprising lessons people learn about love and marriage after divorce:

Dating and Marriage Are Two Very Different Things

So you've been with your significant other for four years, living together for over a year, and everyone you know is pushing you to just take the plunge already. But marriage is about a couple – two individuals, not 40. Just ask one of your divorced friends. He or she will ask you the right questions. And that first one will be, “Are YOU ready?," because marriage is a 24/7, in-your-face-even-when-you're-sick-or-mad contract. Dating or living together is a promise that can be walked away from with minimal complications and very few financial or legal entanglements. But marriage is completely different.

Marrying Your Macomb County Partner Will Not Complete You

There is only one person you can control in your life: you. Marriage is often a common “solution” to find happiness and fulfillment. After all, you love that person so much that it just makes sense to be attached legally forever, right? Marriage can be a wonderful adventure. But people do change. Whether you marry hoping that change doesn't occur, or you marry because you plan on forcing change to happen, you’re going to be disappointed and single again relatively soon. Your divorced friends will tell you to marry your partner only if you’re happy with yourself and with your current partner as he or she is at the moment.

Be Completely Open and Honest about Finances before Even Getting Married

There are many causes of marital failure, but a recent Citibank survey stated that 57 percent of divorce people cited financial issues as the main cause of divorce. When emotional abuse, neglect, and trust issues build in longstanding relationships, communication dwindles. Generally, one person handles most of the finances, and if you’re not that person, you may be in for a very rude awakening. Loss of spending power, lack of self-worth over low income, and stress over bills and creditors only add to the problem. Always be upfront about money managing and know what’s coming in and leaving the household before considering marriage to make sure you’re both on the same page.

Sometimes Marriages Just Don’t Work Out

Statistics like to boast that 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. That’s not even close to being true, but a lot of marriages do fail. You could be the best spouse, give everything to your partner, and still be taken for granted. Your partner could still abuse, neglect, or betray your trust. Changes in social status, careers, living situations, family additions, and general life stress can tear apart even the best relationship. Don’t fight the emotional pain, and don’t ever feel like you need to stay in an abusive relationship – especially when children are involved. Your Michigan divorce lawyer can get you on the right path towards a healthy and happy new life.

Contact Michigan Divorce Help to protect yourself before you take the plunge (or you already dived in and are regretting it).

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