Recession has forced many divorcing parents in Macomb County
Michigan to continue living under the same roof, since maintaining two
households is beyond their financial reach. Additionally, the uncertainty to
the children, who worry about where each parent will live, makes some divorcing
partners opt to stick together during the divorce process. Living with a partner during the Michigan
divorce process is not easy; the home always feels
like a pot of boiling soup ready to spill over.
If you are in such a situation, here
are some tips that will be helpful to survive that tense period in your
relationship.
Plan
a realistic budget
Financial matters often contribute to
divorce in the first place and will likely continue to be a source of
contention. Sit down with your partner and a Michigan divorce lawyer to develop
a temporary household budget. The budget will likely be similar to what you
have been paying plus the added expense of legal fees – utilities, mortgage/rent,
insurance, groceries, taxes and so on. If you are both in the same earnings
bracket, then it makes sense to split
the costs 50-50. If your salaries are markedly different, however, then it's
no reasonable to place an unfair burden on the lower-earning spouse. This is
yet another area in which an attorney's advice is golden.
Decide
when to let your kids know about the divorce
Sometimes, when couples are going
through a divorce and are still living in the same home, they prefer not to
tell their kids about the divorce until one of the partners physically moves
out. Others prefer to let their children know, especially if they move into
separate rooms. Come to an agreement about when to tell the children, and limitations
so that you do not overwhelm them with too much information.
Set
boundaries
Without drawing a physical line in your
home, you should consider creating a private area for each partner. Now, more
than ever, you'll each need your own space to go to without any intrusions.
Do
not bring new romantic partners home
If
you want to begin dating again, be discreet. It's disrespectful to your to
your soon-to-be ex (and confusing for the kids) when your bring a romantic date
into your home while you are still living together.
Maintain
good manners
Be
courteous when dealing with your partner. If there are kids involved, they
sure are watching how you interact and will pick up the traits they see you
exhibiting to cope with a crisis. Even though your partner may be annoying at
times, always try to control your emotions.
Plan
for time in / time out
It is important to set times for so
that each of you is aware of when your future ex will be in and out of the
house. You'll each want ample time to spend with the children without being worried
about another divorce argument erupting.
Need more help getting through divorce
co-habitation? Contact
your Michigan divorce attorney today.
Michigan Divorce Help
110 S Main St #200
Mt Clemens, MI 48043
United States
(586) 954-9500
http://www.michigandivorcehelp.com/
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