The Contemptible Costs of Cheating

Divorce can be an expensive undertaking regardless of the cause. But extramarital affairs, in particular, can be truly costly. The media is full of horror stories surrounding the emotional outcome of adultery-based relationship destruction… but the financial fallout may blow your mind.

The Actual Cost of Cheating
Put aside for a moment the emotional cruelty, potential custody battles, and property that can accompany a divorce. Why? Because Michigan is a no-fault state, which means that a divorce can be granted without proof of fault. Your spouse could be the biggest player in Macomb County, Michigan, but the divorce courts won't care. In the long run, you may be able to prove that the affair(s) resulted neglect and endangerment to yourself and your children. But for now, let’s focus on the actual costs of the affair itself… prior to divorce proceedings.

It’s estimated that the average affair lasts six months and costs over $2,600 (or about $450 per month). Affairs are like extravagant explorations of secretive dating. While the general concept itself is a sneaky and tawdry act of cowardice and the ultimate betrayal to the victimized partner, the cheater often will go out of his or her way to keep the affair on a lofty pedestal.

Typical affairs involve meeting expenses (trips, hotel bills), food and beverages (often at extravagant restaurants, clubs or other venues), and entertainment (movies, live theater, concerts, sporting events). But it doesn’t stop there – not by a long shot. In fact, researchers have discovered that many people will spend any amount of money required to keep their extramarital fling in the lap of luxury while their legal spouse sinks into the shadows.

Contact and control is essential for those bound and determined to carry out such betrayal. Technological devices, extra cell phones, secret credit lines, more hotel reservations, plane tickets, and outrageous gifts are common place. Once secret meetings prove to not be enough and apartments or condos are introduced into the fold, the new lover can cost the adulterer thousands more each month.

Why Does This Happen and What Can You Do?
Adulterers often consider themselves smarter than their spouse, at least during the betrayal phase. Getting away with the behavior, for whatever reason, acts as a drug. They crave the rush, the adrenalin, the high they get from such behavior. If guilt becomes an issue, the victimized spouse may suddenly become bombarded with trinkets, flowers, or minimal attention – notions that pale in comparison to what the girlfriend or boyfriend gets on the side.

There are definite signs of a cheating spouse. It’s your job to decide whether you can handle it on your own or you need to look into Michigan divorce options. Technology is a common warning. Is your partner online more often? Is he secretive about his actions on the computer? Does he leave the room to talk on his cell phone? Is it locked or is history cleared constantly? Does he ignore you or get angry if you approach him while he’s on any device? All red flags.

And there's more… Has her appearance changed drastically? Is she suddenly dressing up, wearing a new scent, leaving at odd times, or carrying around changes of clothes without a logical reason? Does your spouse hide bank account, credit card, or loan information or are funds suddenly being misplaced or added without explanation or verification?

In the end, perhaps the biggest telltale sign is your partner’s behavior. Is he going out often or staying out late without you? Has his sex drive changed? Does he snap, ignore, berate, or insult you? Has he neglected you in any way or refused to communicate at home?

If any of those signs are present in your relationship, it may be time to discuss your options with a competent Michigan divorce lawyer. Marriages have rocky patches, and not every affair leads to divorce. 

Not sure where to turn? Call Femminineo Attorneys today to begin the journey to a better tomorrow.

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