Many people will give you their advice about dating during a
divorce, but you have to remember that their advice is always coming from their
experiences, and it does not always apply to you. There are many success
stories out there from people
who found love while in the process of getting a divorce, and with the
right attitude and approach, you can be one of them!
Dating During Divorce: Some Things You Need To Think About
These are not rules that you need to live by, they are more like important considerations that you should think about before and while dating during divorce. Really, these are just considerations that will help you protect yourself from heartbreak now and in the future.
1. You Need to Deal with Unresolved Baggage
Baggage is simply a term used for issues from your past marriage that could affect your future relationships negatively. For instance, if your partner cheated on you, then you may be holding on to some preconceived notions of what a cheater looks or acts like. If you end up dating someone who reminds you of your ex, then you may unfairly label them as a cheater, and that will affect your relationship in a negative way. Therefore, it is important to deal with any issues that your past relationship created before you can move on and develop a new, stronger relationship
2. A Perfect Relationship Will Not Come from Desperation
We are not saying that you are desperate, but we are saying that anyone who feels like they have to get back into relationship to feel good again, will likely not end up in a very good relationship. When you feel like you must have someone in your life, you will be more willing to accept losers and people who are not compatible with you into your life. Therefore, we suggest instead of trying to find that 'perfect' person, let nature take its course. Enjoy your time, whether you are alone or with someone, and date with the intention to find love, not just someone to fill a void.
3. Take Other People Into Consideration
The love of your life may be the next person you meet on the street, but it is important to take into consideration other people during your divorce to avoid issues. For instance, if your ex is very bitter over the divorce, then they may try to make your life difficult if they know you are dating. Until the divorce is final, you may want to keep any new relationships personal and discreet.
4. If You Have Kids, You Have to Think About Their Welfare
When kids are faced with the divorce of their parents, it can be very hard on them. If they find out that you are dating someone during your divorce, then this can make it even harder. Most kids do not have the mentality or life experience to deal with a situation, such as the divorce of their parents, in a mature way. They do not adopt the concept that “it is for the best,” but instead they ponder the situation without a real grasp of why it occurred. They may say the right things, but that doesn't mean they understand. Adding confusion to an already confusing time can do damage to your children mentally, and that can have a negative effect on them for a long time to come. You may want to focus your attention on your kids during your divorce and ensure that they have dealt with the divorce in a healthy way before you move on to dating.
5. Mt. Clemens, MI Singles Can Find Love Anywhere
You are not limited to your local area to date. If you have been married for a while, then you may not have tried out a new and exciting way to find potential partners. Online dating allows you to screen potential dates before you actually have to talk to them and meet people who share similar experiences, interests, and desires.
According to recent research, many people end up meeting highly compatible people online, and those relationships have a higher chance of success. This should be music to your ears if you are going through a Michigan divorce, because your intention is likely to make your next relationship work.
The Final Say in Whether or Not You Should Date During Divorce
In the end, remember that you are the only one who can make the ultimate decision as to whether or not you should date again. If you are coming from a good place, and have dealt with any baggage that your marriage created, then there is no reason why you should not date again! The love of your life could be waiting to find you right now.
Contact Femminineo Attorneys, PLLC to schedule your free initial consultation, get Michigan divorce help, and discuss your situation.
Femminineo Attorneys
Michigan Divorce Help
110 S Main St #200
Mt Clemens, MI 48043
United States
(586) 954-9500
