How to Put Kids First in Your Divorce Plans

Divorce is never an easy decision, and it's even more difficult when children are involved. Even though Macomb County, Michigan is below the national average for divorce rates, chances are you are divorced, you’re considering divorce in the near future, or you know someone who's divorced. In any case, is there ever a reason to stay together for the sake of the kids?

Should You Ever Stay Married for the Kids?

Kids know when there’s marital trouble in the household, even if words aren’t spoken. They sense tension and notice subtle changes in their home life. And in most cases, they want nothing more than for mom and dad to be happy. While there’s no such thing as a marriage without conflict, there are different types. Divorce in low-conflict marriages should remain on the back burner until the kids are out of the household. Low-conflict marriages are commonplace. You’ve fallen out of love. Chances are fighting is minimal, but maybe you sleep in different rooms. There’s still respect, but perhaps all or most of the fire has died. That can sometimes be regenerated via marital counseling and couples therapy. Your Michigan divorce lawyer will encourage you to exhaust all potential marital healing and recovery options before making permanent life changes.

However, high-conflict marriages deserve more options. If adultery, serious neglect, abuse, or abandonment occurs, it affects your children as well as you. Even if they’re guarded and kept in their rooms, they are intuitive enough to know some of what’s going on. And that’s where the trouble begins.

How Can Remaining in a High-Conflict Marriage Affect Your Children?

Grown-up concerns should not be part of childhood. Kids have enough to deal with on their own end these days. Coming home to arguments over finances, child rearing, or family matters forces children take sides and try to play the adult role. Being privy in any way to abuse – physical, verbal, or emotional – or conversations over adultery can lead to permanent behavioral problems. School-aged kids who witness or internalize their parents' marital stress can develop concentration problems and suffer with school work and social activities.

Reports have stated for years that children of divorce develop such trust issues that marriage is often out of the question. And in practically every situation, spouses who have been a product of a divorced household end up divorced themselves. But new scientific studies show that many children of broken homes grow to be well-adjusted, loving adults.

If you're not sure where your marriage stands, contact Femminineo Attorneys for help.

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